19 Nov 2017

8 Things You Should Know If Your Partner Is Introverted

Myths about introverted people can lead to misunderstanding in the couple.

Taking into account the personality of the other is fundamental in love. Unsplash
Relationships are always based on the fit between two people, but the style we adopt to do this varies according to the personality of the other. It is important to keep this in mind given that, despite the fact that the myth that opposite poles attract each other is a lie (we usually start living as a couple with people with a personality similar to us), there are always nuances in the way of being another that, if we do not understand, can cause the relationship to be damaged.


This is something that happens a lot especially in the case of people who are introverted, be they, men or women. Introversion is a phenomenon that has been unjustly stigmatized for centuries in Western countries, and this causes many myths to circulate about it. The ignorance about this personality form does not disappear when you start dating an introvert; that ignorance becomes part of the relationship and, until it is addressed, it does not go.
To better understand how introverted people think, feel and act in the context of a relationship, consider the following lines.

The mature couples where there are an introvert and communication flow for years and is likely to have overcome this ignorance about this form of personality.
However, in all other cases, the habit of waiting for introverted people to behave always in ways that do not fit well with their tendencies is more frequent than it seems. In the long run, this misunderstanding usually takes its toll, especially in the life of a couple, since this is a space in which we are supposed to be ourselves and not expect to be judged by everything.

1. Better to avoid banal conversations

Introverted people hate "elevator conversations." The fact of thinking about talking to talk is something that causes them to despair since they try to control all aspects of social interaction in which nothing really matters much.
Where most people just try to appear sympathetic and exchange some words, introverts try to express coherent and minimally elaborate messages. That is why either chooses not to talk and avoid going through that lousy drink, or they get too long to realize just after they have taken the conversation too seriously. It's as if they wanted to pilot a kind of giant robot that is made with their own words.


2. Express affection in favorable places

Many introverted people have difficulty communicating affection, love or affection in places full of stimuli and "distractions." That is why they prefer to reserve moments in which these exchanges of affection can receive all the attention they deserve.


3. Need to talk, but stimulating things

An introverted person spends a good part of his time reflecting, thinking about different aspects of life. As a result, there are many topics they find interesting, and it is frustrating not being able to share them with someone. That is why the prejudice that pigeonholes them as individuals who do not like to speak up harms them because few people find it logical that someone who does not usually speak in banal contexts superficially dealing with some issues is interested in talking at length in specific situations.


4. Going out to social events can be a challenge

There are many leisure events that for introverted people are not places to relax and have fun, but contexts that are seen as a challenge. The parties in which many stimuli are occurring at the same time, such as music, new places and people with whom to dialogue, can become saturated.


5. It is fixed in everything

Who is introverted knows that his attitude towards life, although it is usually more discreet than the rest, is not based on passivity, on doing anything? The mind of introverted people always bustles with activity, and that is why they can capture details in which few people notice.


Therefore, it is highly recommended to judge this kind of comments with surprise, as if it were disturbing that someone can concentrate their attention is such small things.


6. He is better at dialogue in privacy

Groups of people who debate something can be too stressful for introverts. They are given much better conversations in which each has time to speak without interruptions and without having to be aware of the reactions of several people at once.


7. It does not tend to shyness as much as it seems

Many times introversion is mistakenly interpreted as shyness. Not so, because the reasons why a person is introverted need not be related to the fear of giving a bad image or receiving ridicule. In fact, many introverts can perform actions that are shocking knowing that they will attract attention.

8. Your thinking goes faster than your speech

It is a fact that introverts have a lot to say, but this makes it difficult to communicate. His life is not guided by brief and frivolous slogans, but by interconnected networks of ideas in a slightly sophisticated way. That is why it is good to show understanding if in explaining certain things words are not found; It is not improvisation, but an effort to make your ideas pass through the funnel of language.